A creature called GUY

I found Reader Digest magazine, September 2007 issue.


A columnist talked about guy's feelings and emotions. It's so interesting that I want to share girls and ask for some confirmations from guys.




Is it true?




They said,
one reason why guys are lack of emotional delicacy - that they don't know what is hidden behind when we look at them - is because of their brain system.

As a student studying a little about neuroscience, from many research I have reviewed, I know that men's and women's brains work different.


There's connection and transmission in human's left brain which control reason system and right brain which control emotions. The connection and transmission in women's brain work better than in men's, they said. (I guess girl's right brain works much harder than the left somehow, or what you think?)

There are some reseach insist that men would interpret non-verbal content, such as face expressions, actings and voice tone of their interlocutors, faultily more than women.


Also, guys would react to emotions less and forget faster than girls.





Hmmm..... That's why someone already forgot things I keep worrying or thinking of, huh?





Guys usually look staid, calm and less emotional, Reader Digest said it's because they have been tought since they were young.


As being a man, they have to be strong, patient and not to cry.


When we were born, boys and girls cried as loud as we could and smiled as big as it could be.

But when we grew up, by socializations and social environment, guys turn to be less and less emotional openly.


When being among people, girls tend to express to appeal the other's attentions (not me!!), while guys would use expressions as a tool to interchange information they're interested.


Girls would speak to release their minds while guys would think before saying anything. (Not everyone is like that, believe me!)


One of my friend complained about her boyfriend.
She said he would be silent when he was in trouble. She assumed that it might be because he was afraid of losing his face if he said something silly or, due to his emotion at the moment, he would say something wrong and it would cause mistakes.


Behind iron masks, there are weakness. Underneath indifferent peels, there are little emotional boys. They feel too instable to accpet themselves, also for their mates could expect.


Guys are like hermit crabs. If they would get more hurt when they speak their feelings, they would hide themselves in the shell and would not come out again.





And These are what girls should know, whether you are wives or girlfriends or not, suggested Reader Digest.





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When you talk with them, be thier sides instead to face them.

Because confrontation makes them feel like they are irritated. When you argue with them, be by their sides instead of sitting opposite to them.





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Do some sport activities with them

Walls in their hearts would be thinner and worries in their mind would flow out. Don't quicken them to speak.





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Try watching guyish drama movies

Many movies relate guys to their backgrounds or philosophy. Some can make them speechless by being closed or similar to what are on their minds. And try not to criticize their childhood experiences. (Hmm... so it doesn't matter with girls, huh?)





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Do not press them to talk about what they have faced when they have bad days.





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Do it but do not say it

Talking may be girl's method. But guys would speak their emotions and feelings non-verbally.
Instead of pressing them to talk, you would better try to speak their laguage.





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Find some ways to let them know that you want to be encouraged

Guys are not that senseless. You just have to let them know what and when you want.





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Tell them how much they mean to you

When you are alone, try to let them know how good you felt when you met him.
Psycologist confirm that guys would be surprised or proud of themselves by hearing that.





Hmmm.....

Those are not only how to treat guys, I guess. Even girls need to be treated like that also.










So......

What do you think, guys?

Is that true?

Do you want us to treat you like that?






If you do, then let me ask you a question.


You want us to treat you that way,


Can you treat us that way also?